We are a little more than a month away from meeting our first son. No, this is not our first child, as we have three beautiful daughters that we love dearly. Even though this is our fourth baby, I am feeling like a first time, new mom again in a lot of ways. I have spent a great deal of time in prayer and meditating on the powerful prayers I wish to speak over my son when we welcome him into this world and over the years to come. Recently I was blessed to be thrown a baby sprinkle by family members to prepare us for our baby boy, which sparked my desire to write out a mother’s prayer for her son. This is a bit more of an intimate post than I am used to sharing, but I pray it encourages and blesses other mothers of new sons as well.
I first would like to share my heart for my son with a letter and then I will share my prayer over him. Once we bring him home, I will pray this over him. For now, I hold my belly and commune with the Father with a heart full of gratitude. Though I was not expecting to have four children, I am ever thankful for the opportunity. With each child, I stretch and grow as a mother and person. I like who I am becoming. There are days that I fail and I am probably pretty miserable to be around. Stress and physical (and mental) exhaustion get to me like everyone else. But most of the time, I delight in my children and I am so thankful for the privilege to be a mother. Thank you, Heavenly Father.
A large, loving family was not exactly my plan, but it was always His
Something you probably don’t yet know about me is that I am an only child. I also don’t necessarily have a mentor or role model in my family that can provide wisdom or insight into the journey we are about to embark on, as no one else has had four children. Particularly not four children in six years. I do not have a foundational context to look back and see how my mother or another relative balanced the relationships between siblings or the relationship both parents need to have with all four children. Since finding out about this pregnancy, I have placed many burdens of my worried heart into God’s hands and asked Him to provide me wisdom and strength and much-needed peace in a time of anxiousness. We are stepping into the unknown and trusting that God will be faithful to His promises as He has in times past and give us exactly what we need when we need it.
It’s not exactly my preference to have to wait to see the Lord move. I am definitely one that likes to be in control. This was all tested and eventually surrendered with a pure heart when our youngest daughter was born. I am found saying often, “Number three humbled me!” I am now looking forward to our son’s arrival and to see what my mothering will be like this time around. I am praying for peace and strength and endurance in a time of trial. With sleepless nights, pain, and learning to breastfeed all over again, I am feeling a bit overwhelmed as I look toward the future. But then I am reminded of God’s love, His faithfulness, and the sweet times I’ve experienced with the first three babies. May God grant us a good day every day as His mercies are new every morning. I know there will be times and maybe even full days of absolute stress and chaos, and in those times I pray I rest in God’s love knowing He will be my refuge in times of trouble.
A mom’s heart for her children
A mother’s love for her children is not like anything other in this world. It is not greater than the love a woman has for her husband, at least it shouldn’t be, but it certainly is powerful in its own right and frankly just different. The great love I have for my children I believe is bearing the image of the Father in His love for His beloved children. Of course my love is not perfect and I will fail my children, unlike God’s caring and shepherding over His own, but my mother’s heart is postured to delight in and cherish my children in a human reflection of the way God delights in and cherishes us.
My love for each precious child is not necessarily a selfless love, but I desire for it to be. By pouring into the Word of God and allowing it to wash over me and my sinful heart, I have found that I treasure my children and time as a stay at home mom so much more than I used to. I no longer look at my responsibilities as burdens or sacrifices in my heart. Rather, it is a privilege, an honor, and a high calling from the Lord Himself. I am truly thankful for the opportunity to pour into my children and I cannot wait to see how I grow in my mothering with a son.
A letter to my firstborn son
A letter to my cherished boy to return to in times of discouragement, a difficult time, or when you just desire to feel unconditional love. I pray my words speak to you as they flow from the Father through me.
Dear Son,
The time has come for a new season to begin. Whether it is your birth, or the time you have a broken heart, or you have no idea what to do and desire Godly wisdom, I pray you know I desire for you to know the love and mercy and grace of the Father as well as the back of your own hand. As much as He loves and cares for you and already sees you from beginning to end, I pray you have a close relationship and deep knowledge of your Creator as well. I pray that you are inspired by His Word and feel the freshness of the water overflowing your cup and cleansing your soul with each word you read.
My son, I am thankful for your life, for the love of our Lord Jesus over you, and for the missional purpose you have been given by your presence in our family. I look forward to seeing you grow and mature into a man of honor and integrity, walking faithfully in the steps of your forefathers and our Lord and Savior. May you not be someone who is content with knowing only a few Bible verses and relying on feeling, but a man of God who is on fire to spread the gospel and be a true disciple—a student—of the Word. Though the Father has entrusted you to our family’s care and there is a family legacy that you will carry on, you are the Lord’s. I place you in God’s care now in the womb and when you are here in the world. I am so excited to call you “my son,” but I know you are not mine. You are His. I pray we never forget it.
I know you have been sent to us from the Father above at just the right time, for His good and specific purpose that He has already worked out for your life. In the midst of chaos and storm, you have been heavenly and divinely sent to fulfill the Lord’s promises. You are my rainbow in the middle of a really long, ugly sentence. A beacon of hope to keep persevering, to keep pursuing, and to hold on just a while longer. Generational curses are being broken, strongholds are being laid to rest. And here you are. The next generation. The legacy. At the moment that the Lord is changing our family tree, here you come.
There is so much more that I hold in my heart for you. I whisper them now to the Father as I rub my belly, as I try to fall asleep at night to the rocking of your kicks and jitters all over my stomach. As I watch your sisters play and wonder how, where, you will fall into the mix. I dream of the day you are taller than me, stronger than me, and I pray that I honor you well. I pray I respect and honor your father well, for you to know a Godly example of what to look for in a wife. I pray I lift you up, encourage and respect you, and I pray you feel known, and seen, and loved. This world will seek to tear you down before you even learn how to stand. I pray you stand on the truth and are shaped into a Godly man of character and integrity worthy of honor and respect.
A thankful mother’s prayer for her son
As I approach labor and delivery of my precious boy, I ask that the Lord hears this prayer over my son’s life and blesses him with a welcoming into the most loving arms we can ever know.
Heavenly Father,
I praise You and I thank You for the precious soul I currently feel kicking around in my belly. He is already so different from the three beautiful girls You have given to our family and I am thankful for the opportunity and privilege to know what it is like to mother both a son and daughters. Lord, You know the plan for this baby and You count every one of his days before him already. You have created the son I am carrying in my womb for a good and specific purpose. You know every step he will take and when he will take his first and final breaths. I thank you, Father, for loving him more than I do. I thank you for equipping Dillan and I to shepherd him to Your feet well. I ask for wisdom and discernment in every time of need to fulfill the duty You have placed before us. I ask that You show us Your way and will for instructing and loving Your child in our home.
I pray, Lord, that he knows You well. I pray he is encouraged by Your Word and seeks not to lean on his own understanding but Your guiding hand. I pray that he learns to hearken to the Shepherd’s voice immediately, and early. I pray that he abounds in Your wisdom and sees others through Your eyes. I pray he loves others as You love them. I pray the boy in my womb grows and matures in You to be a Godly man of faith, integrity, honesty, and strength. That he stands on the firm foundation of what is right, and pure, and holy, and blameless. I beg, Father, for him to have Your Word written on his heart in such a deep way that in whatever he does, it simply flows out of him. That there is no question of what is right versus wrong because he is that well-acquainted with You. I pray for a deep, personal, and intimate relationship with his Creator that cannot be swayed by worldly temptations. I pray he comes to know and love Jesus more than anything else.
I pray that my beloved son has grace for his parents even in the face of our sins and oughts against him. I pray that our relationship, though different from the mother-daughter relationship I have and will continue to cultivate with my girls, is one that is filled with the joy of the Lord and grace and laughter. I pray for him and his father to have a personal relationship built on trust and honesty and vulnerability. Though I know he will not be able to turn to us for everything, I pray that he knows that when he turns to us, our goal is to point him to You, Father.
I pray for my son, even now, to be a good husband and father. I pray he loves his wife as Christ loves the church and stewards his home and finances and children well in Your name. I pray he humbly submits to the role of servant and serves his family well. I pray he finds a wife who loves You and will help teach their children to love You and follow You faithfully as well. I pray she is an encouragement to my son and they work well together as a team to carry out the purpose and work You have prepared for them. I ask, Lord, that the generational sins that Dillan and I are trying so hard to break now will not be carried onto the next generation. I pray they end with us.
I also pray the ones that we are unaware of or cannot break ourselves are broken by our children. That their families are made whole in Christ Jesus and hearts and families are healed in Your name. I pray that our children’s children stand on the shoulders of their parents who are standing on the shoulders of Dillan and I. That they do not experience the same pain and sorrow and broken homes that we have. I pray they are surrounded by Your presence and Spirit so strongly every day that although the enemy will come to tempt them, he cannot and will not succeed. I pray our testimony will be like the stones that bring hope and remembrance to Your people.
As I feel this child moving in my womb, my heart leaps with joy and also with anxiousness. You know all of my fears, all of my heart’s desires, and I pray ultimately, Lord, Your will be done. I thank You for this son and for the purpose You have already created him with. I ask, Father, that I am equipped to mother him well and with wisdom, always pointing back to You. I thank You once again, Lord, and ask for blessings upon us as we work together to deliver him into this world and learn to be mother and son as well as brother and sister in Christ. In Your Holy and Precious name I pray. Amen.
Where to turn to when you don’t feel like you’re enough as a new mom
I recognize that not everyone believes in or knows personally our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Perhaps you’ve stumbled upon this page crying out for help or simply needing encouragement in a time of absolute struggle. I want you to know that there is a Father in heaven who loves you and created you for a very specific purpose that no one else could ever accomplish. I want you to know that you are never alone, that you are always seen and known and loved by the only One who is perfect. Jesus Christ was sent from heaven as a sacrifice for your sins. He died and was raised from the grave to cover a multitude of sins. And guess what? God the Father already knew your sins from the beginning of time, before Jesus was ever sent to the cross. Should you give your life over to him and believe on him as your Lord and Savior, your sins will be forgiven and you will be set free. Free from condemnation, free from the debt you owe for sinning against a holy and righteous God. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Praise God, through His mercy and grace we have been forgiven. We have been set free! Hallelujah! I pray for God’s Word to give you a clean heart and to give you hope. I pray for the Holy Spirit to fall down upon you and make His holy presence known to you in a tangible way. I pray for any new mother who is struggling and needing deliverance. God knows. He sees you. He wants to help you. Invite Him in and He will comfort you. He will deliver you and supply your every need. He loves you.
If you are a new mom who already has a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, I pray that you have an even stronger relationship through this season of having a new baby. I pray that in your difficult time, God meets you right where you are at and reminds you of the precious child that you are. I pray you do not feel unseen and invisible but are high and lifted up in His mighty name. I pray for His great love to shower upon you and give you a comfort of remembering that you are His. I pray you feel the presence of Jesus Christ overwhelm you as a best friend who showers you with unconditional love. That no matter what you do or have done, you have believed on Him and therefore He is yours and you are His! I pray for your children and family and for you to know what the next right thing is to do. Whatever next right step you have to take to draw closer to Jesus and better bear His image, I pray you have the strength and courage to do it. You will not regret it.
For those that are single mothers and feel they are at the end of their rope, I pray in Jesus’ name on your behalf that you are strengthened. I pray for comfort and peace in times of mourning and times of bodily weariness. I pray with God’s help you are surrounded by a prayer group or a friendly group of mamas who will shower you with powerful prayers. I pray they are the hands and feet of Jesus for you in your need. I pray they serve you well and help you to feel the love of the Father. Dear Lord, I beg you are with the single mom wherever she is right now. I thank You for her children’s lives and I pray they have a strong relationship with You as well. Please grant them all peace and comfort tonight. In Your name. Amen.
In whatever season you are in as a mother to a son, I pray this post blesses you and reminds you of the beautiful blessing you have been given!
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